I am sorry, but I read this, "bully the controls" and it just makes me giggle inside. Likely you are discussing trainers which makes it even more comical. Let me tell you a little story. About 6 months ago I had a student come in on a crosswind day it was around the mid teens gusting in the 20s in a 172P. He was convinced he couldn't get it down without fighting it in, he was a private pilot just trying to build crosswind time.
So I said ok watch this, taking the aircraft and trimming it for Vy climb on departure. I then proceeded to fly the pattern until flare without ever touching the controls for the purposes of pitch. All I did was keep wings level by holding the stick still and used power and flap inputs to command the descent. Oh, and we used 30 degrees flaps with a crabbed approach, smooth round out and some rudder for a nice touchdown. Approach speed about 65 knots.
The moral of the story is airplanes are stable. That means when wind disrupts them they will return to their original state, this holes true for any GA non aerobatic aircraft I have flown. It is even more true for trainers. Bullying the aircraft does two things: gives you pilot induced turbulence and makes your instructor chuckle or your passengers puke. Don't flight it, let her fly and guide her in like a big lady down a narrow isle.
