Commuting is awful. Two leg commutes are worse, and not sustainable for very long (for me).
That said, picking up and moving a whole family to base, especially if it's not a city you wanted to live anyway, then having to move (or commute) when the base shuts down would be worse.
Keep in mind that bases close and reduce in size often enough to worry about it.
Dreaming of living in base, someday. It's a whole different career when you do.