Thanks for the feedback. I currently commute and am aware of the issues with it. I don’t plan to commute forever but the wife and I are expecting another baby soon and we live close to her parents. The help they provide while I’m gone is enormous. Once all the kids are out of diapers in a few years we do plan to move to a base.
CLT and DFW are the easiest commutes from our home near MEM with the most direct AA flights. Any of the bases are commutable via FedEx and all but LAX have at least one direct flight per day on AA.

From the comments it sounds like LGA might be the best for me with the low time to hold a line, though PHL has one extra flight per day making it slightly easier to commute in network. If I get LGA then I’ll just have to find another crash pad and then figure out the NY area transportation system until I can get to CLT or DFW on long call.