DJB23:
All of these guys have given you some very good advice. My two cents is as follows
based on the info you provided:
- get your AS degree (try grants & scholarships...loans as a last resort)
- start flying @ local FBO & attain PPL (start networking at that point)
- build your flight time (networking may translate into instru, CPL, CFI)
By the time you fulfill the requirements for the AS degree, you should be a CFI and continuing to build your time. Also, as a result of networking, there's no telling whom you will have come in contact with and what assistance these persons may have to offer you. People with experience & money don't mind helping someone who is putting forth honest effort. There are still people like that in this world. As a matter fact, there are a few that participate on these forums. At any rate, you will have continued to build and strengthening your relationship with your family while learning to fly.
Whatever decision you make, I'm sure it'll be the one that's right for you!
Best wishes & blue skies.