How about ‘splitting the baby’, so to speak?
Don’t commit to the whole ball of wax off the get-go. Put yourself on the ‘fast track’ to private pilot, start now. That won’t hamper any longer term plans, but it’s easier to fit in right away.
Once done with private any the goals are the same, look for right time for the next step.
Try to schedule a family trip to Oshkosh in July for Airventure too.