Originally Posted by Bucking Bar

I can check with a friend and PM you, but having seen some friends go through this process; there is no "good" outcome. A contested divorce only makes the attorneys rich. Folks I know have spent $100,000 to $125,000 on legal expenses fighting over roughly $1m in assets.

The adage that it is "cheaper to keep her" is certainly true.

What worked for me:

(1) Try a reset. Went off on a trip and had FUN. Made an effort to not talk about what ****ed me off & found a way to be friends again. Hawaii (get a COVID test & good to go) is an idea. 2020 has had little opportunity to enjoy life. A reset might work.

(2) If really divorcing, then see if there is any way to work the deal out amongst one another. Think of a pre-nup agreement and just execute it as a post-nup. When I thought I was getting a divorce (8 years ago) we sat down with a family attorney and worked out the deal.

If you make it to the other side (working things out) then you hopefully will have some tools that work to fix the relationship. Been married for 15 years and still getting better at it.

Wish you the very best. Know this is a tough time.