For me, it's about being there to do a job, do it safely and well, and to conduct myself with other people the way my mother raised me to do so. Their is absolutely ZERO social reason to be there. I don't buy lunches or dinners, or go out with crews, and do not talk about company business, politics, religion, world events on the job.
I enjoy polite conversations about our family farm, previous flying experiences and equipment, my path, all that's fine, but it's "light." Definitely love talking about my kids and my wife. We have those moments where it's OK.