You live in CLT? Total no brainer. Go to AA.
on the 7/7 at NJA you will make 100K?? IDK, not even sure they make 100K. Lets say 100K. I can make 100K working at AA, 2 years in, by only working 100 days or less (100 days assuming minimum pay days for 100 days). 100 days/12: 8 days of work to equal the same money you would make at NJA as an FO on the 7/7 being gone 15 days a month. average calender day is 5:15 here, $161 per hour plus 16% 401K is just shy of $1000 ($984 to be exact). That is if your trip is minimum pay. On the other end of the spectrum there are turns that pay 8 plus hours per day. I did a turn the other day that paid $1600.
Anyways, have you ever flown charter, part 135, or corporate? It can suck. Same idiot captain for 7 straight days. Cleaning the plane, hauling bags, sitting at the FBO on standby.
Guys work more at AA because they want to make more but they dont have to. Especially when thinking about jumping to some non 121 gig such as NJA or corporate. Until this pandemic hit I did zero days of reserve. ZERO. Straight to a line in NYC out of training and it will be the same for you. This idea you will on short call reserve for 18 days in NYC for years is BS. Maybe a month or two, maybe. Too many retirements and too much upcoming movement. All the east coast US airway bases have the most retirements upcoming, especially CLT and they are growing CLT.
Here is the other thing for family life. You can call off sick if you need to make an especially important event. Try doing that in the middle of a trip at NJA.