It's all about food on the table
I am by no means an authority on this but here it goes. I will be separating soon through Palace Chase. My plan is to get hired by anyone that will put food on the table. In a perfect world I would be trained up at my reserve job first so I don't have to take Military leave. However, if company X hires me while I am waiting for my Mil training date I will start with company X. I am not an a$@ but I do have a wife and two kids. The reserves can't get rid of you for training at you civilian job, and your civilian job can't get rid of you for mil leave. I have the same problem you do but this advice was given to me by those that have been there and done that. Two years down the road no one will remember.
Cheers!