123494

You ended up getting married again?

TransWorld

Would that have been about the same in the county and state where it was written? I would think so.

Also sounds like you hired a less than top notch attorney. But, then again, that is just an opinion.

Bluetruth

Problem with this is they are leaving a lot of government benefits now and later off the table. Married couples get a better shake at tax time, retirement time, and inheritance time.

NuGuy

They don't care.

at6d

Is it better to get a good deal or be happy?

Is there actually happiness?

I don’t know these answers anymore.

Bluetruth

Its their life, more power to them. These arrangements are usually bad for women though, beyond the money/gov.benefits thing.

Men can always get something younger down the road, a woman past 40 has to be rich, or settle for being some old geezers caregiver. Exaggerating a bit, but not really.

ebl14

“Married and bored or single and lonely, ain’t no happiness no-where.” - Chris Rock

jaxsurf

And divorces are usually bad for men, so who cares?

SLUFF

I'm sorry you are having to endure this hardship My hope and prayer is for you to endure and persevere whatever the final outcome.

First off I live in a glass house so this is not an attempt to throw stones as I have also been through a divorce. I have since remarried and this will be my short bullet point treatise to support the covenant of marriage.

1. There are always two sides to every story. Both parties are wrong and fall short of the love we all espoused at the alter or in front of the JP. Romans 3:23 or Isaiah 53:6. I'm guilty brother.

2. The good news is, in spite of our inability to be the perfect loving spouse (for all have fallen short). The marriage covenant is a promise to hold firm in spite of our failures and of course vice versa.

3. My perspective is obviously Christian, so the good news for those who have trusted in Christ is He will fill in the gaps where both parties have failed.

4. My wife has endured 22 plus years now (in round two) of my failing to measure up and again vice versa. However, the most valuable relationship by far is with the woman whom has chosen to endure the hardships with me. No one knows me, or cares for me or supports me like she does/has. I definitely am not a marriage master as many days it is only the Grace of God that sustains our relationship.

My prayer for all who read this is for you to experience the depth, grace, compassion and perseverance found in a committed life long relationship. Again, I will only be able to tell you at the end of my days if in fact we do succeed. With great risk comes great reward!

Big E 757

Man, I’m sorry to hear this. I’d say, without a doubt, happiness is more important than a good deal.

Yes, there is happiness. You just can’t feel it right now, because every time you have something to smile about, you feel guilty, you remember what you’re going through, and squash that feeling before it can surface.

Hang in there brother. Every person I’ve spoken to who was going through a divorce has felt a tremendous amount of guilt and shame because their marriage didn’t work. The felt like a complete failure because they couldn’t make it work. But most times, it’s not any one thing and no one is truly at fault.

I truly hope all of you that are going through this difficult time, find a reason to smile again soon. Because you deserve it.