Divorce Lawyer Northside Atlanta
12-29-2020, 07:57 PM
#21
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Originally Posted by boog123
1. Learn the art of radio silence. The lawyers will listen to you and yours complain, whine and set strategy all day long......for 300/hour.....be prepared to spend thousands explaining to your lawyer, who will then try to explain to her lawyer, who will then have to explain to a judge how you are paid. Lawyers make money when people don’t get along. Judges don’t want to have to set a ruling, they want “agreed orders”. “Agreed orders” save everyone money, except the lawyers.
2. Radio silence with the ex also. She most likely won’t ever see your side, or admit to it.
3. Kids see everything, when they are teenagers, they eventually get thru the chaff.
4. Paying “extra” and doing the right thing, doesn’t always pay dividends.....prepare to be disappointed.
5. Ups and downs, can’t unscramble eggs! Do the best you can, be a good dad. That’s the golden ticket....
2. Radio silence with the ex also. She most likely won’t ever see your side, or admit to it.
3. Kids see everything, when they are teenagers, they eventually get thru the chaff.
4. Paying “extra” and doing the right thing, doesn’t always pay dividends.....prepare to be disappointed.
5. Ups and downs, can’t unscramble eggs! Do the best you can, be a good dad. That’s the golden ticket....
12-29-2020, 08:17 PM
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Originally Posted by ppping
I lurk on chit chat also and put it out there. Unfortunately my wife got to a pretty good divorce lawyer before I could pull a block, but good for her. On the positive side this lawyer, in addition to my wife’s friend who is also a lawyer, gave her the same advice that she isn’t going to get as much as she was hoping for ie everything and her lifestyle doesn’t change. Nobody is winning in a divorce. I feel for her, We had big dreams and those have changed. It’s sucks but it will be better than what was and who knows what the future holds.
I have had great interactions with Christina. She is with Pilot Family Matters. I would reach out to her as a resource.
12-29-2020, 08:21 PM
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Originally Posted by Rowdy320
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I have had great interactions with Christina. She is with Pilot Family Matters. I would reach out to her as a resource.
I have had great interactions with Christina. She is with Pilot Family Matters. I would reach out to her as a resource.
12-30-2020, 05:48 AM
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Always remember that divorce attorneys make money by promoting conflict not resolution. Sometimes fighting to the last nickel is not the smart strategy. Don’t let it become personal and about winning and losing. Hopefully your ex will feel the same. Mediation can be a great tool.
12-30-2020, 07:29 AM
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Having watched numerous divorces (not me) If you can work it out without a lawyer, you will come out better than getting into court. You are a rich airline pilot. she is a stay at home wife. The courts will fry you.
12-30-2020, 11:15 AM
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Originally Posted by Roll Inverted and Pull
Having watched numerous divorces (not me) If you can work it out without a lawyer, you will come out better than getting into court. You are a rich airline pilot. she is a stay at home wife. The courts will fry you.
Also this: Magnanimous gestures and mercy are for after the battle (such as it is) is won, not before.
If the big "d" visits you, statistically speaking it's been filed for by your wife. Harden your heart. She already has.
Used to think women were the romantics, men were the steely-eyed pragmatists. This is exactly backwards.
12-30-2020, 01:04 PM
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Originally Posted by DeltaboundRedux
I've heard much the same.
Also this: Magnanimous gestures and mercy are for after the battle (such as it is) is won, not before.
If the big "d" visits you, statistically speaking it's been filed for by your wife. Harden your heart. She already has.
Used to think women were the romantics, men were the steely-eyed pragmatists. This is exactly backwards.
Also this: Magnanimous gestures and mercy are for after the battle (such as it is) is won, not before.
If the big "d" visits you, statistically speaking it's been filed for by your wife. Harden your heart. She already has.
Used to think women were the romantics, men were the steely-eyed pragmatists. This is exactly backwards.
12-30-2020, 02:40 PM
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Originally Posted by DeltaboundRedux
I've heard much the same.
Also this: Magnanimous gestures and mercy are for after the battle (such as it is) is won, not before.
If the big "d" visits you, statistically speaking it's been filed for by your wife. Harden your heart. She already has.
Used to think women were the romantics, men were the steely-eyed pragmatists. This is exactly backwards.
Also this: Magnanimous gestures and mercy are for after the battle (such as it is) is won, not before.
If the big "d" visits you, statistically speaking it's been filed for by your wife. Harden your heart. She already has.
Used to think women were the romantics, men were the steely-eyed pragmatists. This is exactly backwards.
The problem is that while your soon-to-be-ex spouse may be a rational person taken by themselves, as soon as the family/friends element kicks in, your hope is probably lost. The pinging, which goes on 24/7 of what they “should do”, is relentless. Of course, none of the people making those suggestions are on the hook for any of the consequences.
I’ve seen people on track to a mediated resolution have it all fall apart once the family/friend element got involved, and it turned into a multi-year train wreck where everyone came off worse.
Play to win. Once the fun starts, I’ve never seen any generosity repaid in kind. If you want to be magnanimous, there’s time for that after the decree is final.
12-30-2020, 03:46 PM
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Originally Posted by NuGuy
I would add, as Bucking said above, that if you can come to a mediated agreement, that’s obviously the preferred solution, but you have to close that out fairly rapidly.
The problem is that while your soon-to-be-ex spouse may be a rational person taken by themselves, as soon as the family/friends element kicks in, your hope is probably lost. The pinging, which goes on 24/7 of what they “should do”, is relentless. Of course, none of the people making those suggestions are on the hook for any of the consequences.
I’ve seen people on track to a mediated resolution have it all fall apart once the family/friend element got involved, and it turned into a multi-year train wreck where everyone came off worse.
Play to win. Once the fun starts, I’ve never seen any generosity repaid in kind. If you want to be magnanimous, there’s time for that after the decree is final.
The problem is that while your soon-to-be-ex spouse may be a rational person taken by themselves, as soon as the family/friends element kicks in, your hope is probably lost. The pinging, which goes on 24/7 of what they “should do”, is relentless. Of course, none of the people making those suggestions are on the hook for any of the consequences.
I’ve seen people on track to a mediated resolution have it all fall apart once the family/friend element got involved, and it turned into a multi-year train wreck where everyone came off worse.
Play to win. Once the fun starts, I’ve never seen any generosity repaid in kind. If you want to be magnanimous, there’s time for that after the decree is final.
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