Divorce Lawyer Northside Atlanta
#5
THANK YOU.
Previous hairline fractures have grown into major fault lines heretofore papered over by high salaries, frequent away trips from home (pressure valve), and and overall professional uncertainty have been exposed for more than one pilot.
ppping, you ain't alone.
Previous hairline fractures have grown into major fault lines heretofore papered over by high salaries, frequent away trips from home (pressure valve), and and overall professional uncertainty have been exposed for more than one pilot.
ppping, you ain't alone.
#7
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I can check with a friend and PM you, but having seen some friends go through this process; there is no "good" outcome. A contested divorce only makes the attorneys rich. Folks I know have spent $100,000 to $125,000 on legal expenses fighting over roughly $1m in assets.
The adage that it is "cheaper to keep her" is certainly true.
What worked for me:
(1) Try a reset. Went off on a trip and had FUN. Made an effort to not talk about what ****ed me off & found a way to be friends again. Hawaii (get a COVID test & good to go) is an idea. 2020 has had little opportunity to enjoy life. A reset might work.
(2) If really divorcing, then see if there is any way to work the deal out amongst one another. Think of a pre-nup agreement and just execute it as a post-nup. When I thought I was getting a divorce (8 years ago) we sat down with a family attorney and worked out the deal.
If you make it to the other side (working things out) then you hopefully will have some tools that work to fix the relationship. Been married for 15 years and still getting better at it.
Wish you the very best. Know this is a tough time.
The adage that it is "cheaper to keep her" is certainly true.
What worked for me:
(1) Try a reset. Went off on a trip and had FUN. Made an effort to not talk about what ****ed me off & found a way to be friends again. Hawaii (get a COVID test & good to go) is an idea. 2020 has had little opportunity to enjoy life. A reset might work.
(2) If really divorcing, then see if there is any way to work the deal out amongst one another. Think of a pre-nup agreement and just execute it as a post-nup. When I thought I was getting a divorce (8 years ago) we sat down with a family attorney and worked out the deal.
If you make it to the other side (working things out) then you hopefully will have some tools that work to fix the relationship. Been married for 15 years and still getting better at it.
Wish you the very best. Know this is a tough time.
#8
75 most of the time
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Joined APC: Apr 2009
Position: 7ER B
Posts: 266
THANK YOU.
Previous hairline fractures have grown into major fault lines heretofore papered over by high salaries, frequent away trips from home (pressure valve), and and overall professional uncertainty have been exposed for more than one pilot.
ppping, you ain't alone.
Previous hairline fractures have grown into major fault lines heretofore papered over by high salaries, frequent away trips from home (pressure valve), and and overall professional uncertainty have been exposed for more than one pilot.
ppping, you ain't alone.
#9
75 most of the time
Thread Starter
Joined APC: Apr 2009
Position: 7ER B
Posts: 266
I can check with a friend and PM you, but having seen some friends go through this process; there is no "good" outcome. A contested divorce only makes the attorneys rich. Folks I know have spent $100,000 to $125,000 on legal expenses fighting over roughly $1m in assets.
The adage that it is "cheaper to keep her" is certainly true.
What worked for me:
(1) Try a reset. Went off on a trip and had FUN. Made an effort to not talk about what ****ed me off & found a way to be friends again. Hawaii (get a COVID test & good to go) is an idea. 2020 has had little opportunity to enjoy life. A reset might work.
(2) If really divorcing, then see if there is any way to work the deal out amongst one another. Think of a pre-nup agreement and just execute it as a post-nup. When I thought I was getting a divorce (8 years ago) we sat down with a family attorney and worked out the deal.
If you make it to the other side (working things out) then you hopefully will have some tools that work to fix the relationship. Been married for 15 years and still getting better at it.
Wish you the very best. Know this is a tough time.
The adage that it is "cheaper to keep her" is certainly true.
What worked for me:
(1) Try a reset. Went off on a trip and had FUN. Made an effort to not talk about what ****ed me off & found a way to be friends again. Hawaii (get a COVID test & good to go) is an idea. 2020 has had little opportunity to enjoy life. A reset might work.
(2) If really divorcing, then see if there is any way to work the deal out amongst one another. Think of a pre-nup agreement and just execute it as a post-nup. When I thought I was getting a divorce (8 years ago) we sat down with a family attorney and worked out the deal.
If you make it to the other side (working things out) then you hopefully will have some tools that work to fix the relationship. Been married for 15 years and still getting better at it.
Wish you the very best. Know this is a tough time.
#10
Would really like to try a reset but I don’t know if it’s feasible at this point. I would much rather mediate a divorce. I am not looking to screw her or the kids and create an even more toxic relationship post divorce. I only want what’s best for the kids and stability for all.
I hated that woman for a period and couldn’t understand her side. Lots of hanging up on each other (it didn’t help we were doing this while one of us was always deployed). She then came home and said we would give it another chance. I had had enough and volunteered to deploy early to get away. That was a shot across the bow I guess signaling I was truly done because I thought she was truly done. Then I came back, needed to be picked up at the airport so she came. Stupid as this sounds but we started being nice and had one last date night to celebrate our divorce moving forward nicely followed by consensual fun. After letting our guards down i guess we just decided to slowly begin trusting, forgiving, and enjoying each other again. We listened and got things off our chest and things weirdly snapped quickly in the other direction. That attorney still has our divorce money and the paperwork never got filed. Worth it. This long diatribe is just letting you know that others have been there and survived even when it seemed like it was a done deal towards divorce. I’ve been married 16 years now and it’s been 10 since that event. Our marriage did great during COVID because I think we dealt with what you are dealing with and luckily learned how to cope with each other. Don’t be too proud to listen and hopefully she can reciprocate. Good luck man, I empathize big time.
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