Divorce in MN
 

Hello all, anyone have any good divorce attorneys that are familiar with our careers in MN? Or general recommendations.

Thanks

Sorry you're in this spot. Best wishes

Ditto…To date the worst experience of my life. Hang tough

Same here. However, to add another data point, it gave way to easily the BEST time of my entire life immediately afterwards. Life DOES get better, so don't let the dark storm clouds convince you that the storm will last forever. It's like a tempest. Horribly, terrifying, and the minutes seem like days. But, it will pass. and boy oh boy does the sun shine afterwards.

OP, I'm in MN also. LMK and I'll buy you a protein shake after you hit the gym (which is what you should be doing instead of drinking ANY alcohol during and immediately after this process)

Hit the gym. Lawyer up. Delete Facebook.

Solid advice.

Yeah.

This, too, shall pass.

So sorry this is in your wheelhouse brother.

The only way forward is through. The obstacle is the way.

Memento Mori.

Living well is the best revenge.

Every single person I know who has been divorced is happier and would never go back to what they had. The pressures on society from social media, tv programming, evenings with friends, is just too much for the modern American to hold onto any kind of self identity. People just blow whichever way the wind is going at the moment. Get in shape, have fun, pickup long lost hobbies and be thankful that when you come to work you get to associate with people who are for the most part, fantastic. *We truly have a great group of people here.


Focus on you, your kids and family. The rest is BS. (no, not the optimizer guy).









*Some at the top are excluded from this general statement.

First things first. Watch “Divorce Corp” it’s a Netflix Documentary.

get a lawyer. Any lawyer, it doesn’t matter. They are all working together to get the most money out of this deal for themselves.

Find out what your spouse wants, triple it, and pay. That will cost half as much a years in court.

look up Kit Darby. He knows your profession (or thinks he does) and will be happy to help your spouse’s attorney convince the judge you make more money than you actually do. The fun part is he charges a lot and you get to pay for it.

I’ll just say this, much of the split comes down to ‘formulas’, from that the edges get massaged. Those include years married, W-2 amounts/differences, minor children, retirement $$ & plans.

I went through a complete settlement, not one cent or any collaboration after the final date. Not saying it’s the best for the next, but worked for me. My attorney costs were just over $5k. Of course much depends on the willingness of both parties to come to a settlement. I know some that end up years in the trenches, literally burning $$.

When no alternatives exist, treat it as something that just has to be done. It has been much better on the other side. Without posting detail, one can do some prep ahead of time. After one files your options are fewer.

The judge should push for mediation. This is the best avenue to pursue. Lawyers aren’t in the room. Just a neutral party. Keep emotions out as much as possible, focus on kids and joint custody. It absolutely can be done. Split holidays every other year. Don’t splice Xmas Eve and day, NYE/day. One house will always lose out on time. Get it in writing that you have blanket rights to travel to all 50 states. Just crossing the border into Wisconsin for Burger King can land you in court.

log all time you have with the kids, drop of locations, status when they are transferred, etc.

I had full joint custody from diaper stage forward. The kids had two wardrobes. One at mine, one at the other house. Made for easier transfers.
split schooling, medical, agreed upon activities 50/50. Make sure to have written control over religious upbringing in case they go cult status.

Greyrock the STBX, don’t give them any ammo.

Hit the gym, ditch social media, see a therapist! It does get much much better. Your kids will remember everything you did. Live and act with that philosophy. As kids and certainly as adults they know when certain parties were more focused on revenge than their best upbringing.

problem is the judge will not push for mediation. The Judge is not a Judge, they are family law lawyers. They know the game. They will look for division, exploit it, and bring in the lawyers. Then you get to spend years watching all the money go bye bye.

F. Lee Bailey ,Johnny Cochran ,Matlock , John Grisham, Marcia Clark , Saul Goodman , Perry Mason, Jackie Chiles , Arnie Becker or Ally McBeal .

Doesn’t matter how good lawyer is or how good of a husband or Father you are/were , the wife always wins . It’s a total sham .

all correct except for the gender. Not a father thing, it is a money thing. If the wife makes more money the father wins everything.

family court is gender neutral. It’s all about the money.

net worth of marital community 500k

her lawyers ask 1.7m


triple it? 5.1 million out of a marital community net worth of 500k?

really?

Yes really. Guess you will find out soon enough. That “ask” is just to get you to fight it. They will be taking in cash for years.

oops sorry just saw she already has a lawyer. It’s too late then. You could have given her $750K before she got a lawyer. Now you are along for the ride.

Matt Gilbert (612) 564-3622