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Old 10-28-2017, 04:22 PM
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I take that back... I know another one.
She quit the airlines and works for the FAA now. They have a child and are very happy.
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Old 10-28-2017, 04:26 PM
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Detpilot and Csy Mon gave you some good life experience, take it. Why in the world are you worried about one woman while you are in college, have fun.....those years come to an end. If you want kids, move on. It’s hard enough not being married to a pilot and having kids. I could not imagine a two pilot house with kids.
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Old 10-28-2017, 04:42 PM
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There's no need to rush into marriage right out of college. If she's the "one" then continue to date her for a few years after you graduate. After that time you'll both have become intimately familiar with the realities of airline life, and can consider the plunge then.

Maybe 2/3 of the airline couples I know are still together but it definitely takes sacrifice. One example: Wife quit her legacy to take a job with her husband's legacy. Now several years later they're both living in base, she's a sim instructor, he stays on the most junior aircraft for QOL, they have a part time nanny for the kids, and probably have a household income of a half million a year. Power couple!
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Old 10-28-2017, 04:43 PM
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You're obviously young, and since you're asking this question you already know the answer. Trying to fit a square peg in a round hole never works no matter how hard you try.

In the event you go against everyone's advice here, don't let her ever not work or give up a career for you. Won't end well in court.
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Old 10-28-2017, 05:08 PM
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FWIW I've flown with one guy who is married to another pilot - first marriage and still going strong with kids. Great people.

I have some friends at both SW and DL who are pilots and who are married to fellow pilots.

I know others who are married to pilots of different airlines and they seem to make it work.
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Old 10-28-2017, 05:42 PM
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Originally Posted by WhisperJet View Post
FWIW I've flown with one guy who is married to another pilot - first marriage and still going strong with kids. Great people.

I have some friends at both SW and DL who are pilots and who are married to fellow pilots.

I know others who are married to pilots of different airlines and they seem to make it work.
I agree you can make it work. I've been married for almost 30 years and never looked back. There are a number of married couples at FedEx, which I think works very well because we have extraordinary flexibility to work as much/little as we like. Some of us are married to pilots at other carriers, because the reality is that female pilots are often going to be married to other pilots. Like people in other career fields, sometimes it doesn't work out, but we have a number of long term married couples.

There are sacrifices to be made to your schedule, or where to live, but if you're willing to be flexible and put the marriage first, you can work it out. It's very nice to have a spouse making the big bucks also, so you don't feel forced to work a full schedule. Sometimes I felt like we were job sharing....we have commuted for a long time, had kids, and never had a nanny.

However, you are pretty young to be thinking this is the one, I would wait awhile. But I can assure you, if you marry her, you are going to have some boring ass conversations that will irritate the non-flyers around you. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
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Old 10-28-2017, 05:48 PM
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Every relationship, to include spouses jobs, with have pluses and minuses. Figure out how to make the negatives more acceptable and enjoy the positives.

Coworkers have been married to executives or big time lawyers. How do you think that works? It's worse than being married a pilot. Theythocislly fly every weekend, when mom is off, and have the week days off while mom is in the office or traveling.

You'll make enough money to afford hiring a house cleaning service and perhaps au pairs. Personally I'd recommend hiring two, and Sweden would be my first choice. ;-)
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Old 10-28-2017, 06:05 PM
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The best deal is to be married to someone at the same airline, same seat position. Hey, you know that trip I have tomorrow? Will you fly it for me, please?

Of course it sucks if the airline starts to furlough, then you're both out of a job.
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Old 10-28-2017, 06:49 PM
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One of my classmates at Envoy married a pilot he met at flight school. She got hired at Envoy a few months later. I think they’ve been married 11 years or so now.
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Old 10-28-2017, 09:01 PM
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Fwiw I know of a couple dual pilot relationships and the successful ones with kids have a good support system with grandparents or hire an au pair
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