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Pilot Dads and placement agreements w/ Kids

Old 10-25-2018, 07:03 AM
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I'm looking for fellow pilots that have placement agreements with their kids' mom and what they do for reference.

My ex wants a 7 day alternating placement schedule. I'm a commuting regional guy that lives in a small town. My line bidding power ranges from 40% to 35% so a 7 on 7 off would be impossible on a consistent basis.

If this situation is similar what do you do for placement with your kids? Thanks in advance.
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Old 10-25-2018, 08:56 AM
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Impossible to address without legal knowledge of your state jurisdiction.

Chances are you can't have custody, at least not in the arrangement your wife seeks.

Split custody is hard on kids. Really hard.

Courts tend to side with mothers. It sounds like your ex-wife wants this arrangement; if so, she may be amenable to a sliding agreement that coincides with your days off. That may be best handled via arbitration, rather than battling out in court.

The difficulty for her is that if you can't predict your schedule and she agrees to abide your schedule, she can't predict her own and therefore can't live her life, either: she's tied down by your work, and she may not want that.

If you have grandparents in the picture who can stabilize the custody by covering when you're not available, it may help.
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Old 10-25-2018, 09:30 AM
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There are legal provisions in many or most states for parents who have schedules which cannot be determined far in advance, generally these are intended to protect flight crew, truckers, and similar. Your lawyer should know about this, at least whether it is an option in your state. Generally it's not going to be something you have to negotiate, the law will specify that's what she has to deal with. How often you get the kids on your days off is subject to debate.

I had a Navy buddy (UPS captain) who lived in a state which did not automatically apply that kind of protection. When he plead his case, and the judge told him sorry, he would have to get a different job if he wanted to see his kids. He said OK, he could get a corporate aviation job in the smallish town they lived in. Said he would submit his resignation that day, and be back in court with a copy later in the afternoon.

The ex, who obviously had her lifestyle planned out based on UPS CA alimony, jumped up in court and said Hold On! we need to talk about this offline!

She came to a reasonable agreement about shared custody very quickly, with the gravy train teetering off the rails...
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Old 10-27-2018, 05:56 AM
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I appreciate your responses. I'm only seeking what other pilots do for there placement agreements. I realize anyone's reluctance to post since its a very private matter. Please private message me. I realize every circumstance is different but I'm just trying to see what other guys do so I can inform my lawyer and ultimately the judge.

My situation isn't new. I'm very familiar with my states family law. I'm 5 years deep into it and currently have a 50/50 custody and placement agreement. I realize my ex's frustration with having a placement agreement revolved around my work schedule.

Does anyone know of any recourses available that help protect pilots from former spouses using our jobs against us when is comes to placement agreements? Our "Association" isn't much help in the matter.
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Old 10-29-2018, 02:22 PM
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Don’t get me started on EX’es. It’s a minefield, tread carefully, plan ahead.
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