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Top 25 Mistakes Airline Pilots Make (Divorce)

Old 09-01-2010, 08:33 PM
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Of course that means that 50% of all marriages....last FOREVER.
Yeah, forever miserable (for most of them anyway)
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Old 09-01-2010, 08:59 PM
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<<There's a 50% chance the marriage is going to fail.<<

Of course that means that 50% of all marriages....last FOREVER.

Oh crap, do you mean I have to stay married forever?
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Old 09-12-2010, 04:27 PM
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50% end in divorce, 50% end in death...some odds.
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Old 09-14-2010, 12:32 PM
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Married twice. First one a disaster. My head so far up my rear I needed an "Oppenndecktomy", where a plate glass window is installed in your belly so you can see out.

Second time....well, been married for 26 years now. I've come to cherrish her as the special person she is. Been through a lot of living together, some good, some bad, ....mostly good. But we're partners for life...and I think that's what being married is all about....life partners. You have to work at it, it doesn't just happen because you were in lust at one point in your life. It's true what they say...it really does get better with time, and you can fall more deeply in love.

I'm no expert, but IMHO too many people think that if they marry they can preserve or capture the relationship they have for life. That usually doesn't work...you both will change and grow, and the very circumstances of your lives will change. As a marraige matures, it changes into a deeper commitment to eachother to perservere through whatever comes your way, facing life as a team. (I was very fortunate to have parents who were not divorced...they showed us what love is and taught us by their actions, even in life's most difficult days.)

I've flown with a lot of guys getting divorced....and it's never pretty and always more than painful. No one really wins...the best possible outcome is a chance to start over, and I'm glad I had the chance.

Life's best to all of you....
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Old 11-21-2010, 05:34 AM
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I installed Spector Pro on my computer, and discovered 2 guys she's seeing, a bank account I had no idea existed, and her real thoughts of me emailed to her best friend. Buy this program if you're about to get hit with papers or will serve them upon her yourself: SpectorSoft - Spector Pro 2010
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After me committing multiple infidelities with a number of FA's,
My wife of 25 years has demanded a post nuptial contract with an infidelity clause. It has become a condition of continued marriage. Appears I am not in the drivers seat on this.
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Originally Posted by captfurlough View Post
Married twice. First one a disaster. My head so far up my rear I needed an "Oppenndecktomy", where a plate glass window is installed in your belly so you can see out.

Second time....well, been married for 26 years now. I've come to cherrish her as the special person she is. Been through a lot of living together, some good, some bad, ....mostly good. But we're partners for life...and I think that's what being married is all about....life partners. You have to work at it, it doesn't just happen because you were in lust at one point in your life. It's true what they say...it really does get better with time, and you can fall more deeply in love.

I'm no expert, but IMHO too many people think that if they marry they can preserve or capture the relationship they have for life. That usually doesn't work...you both will change and grow, and the very circumstances of your lives will change. As a marraige matures, it changes into a deeper commitment to eachother to perservere through whatever comes your way, facing life as a team. (I was very fortunate to have parents who were not divorced...they showed us what love is and taught us by their actions, even in life's most difficult days.)

I've flown with a lot of guys getting divorced....and it's never pretty and always more than painful. No one really wins...the best possible outcome is a chance to start over, and I'm glad I had the chance.

Life's best to all of you....
Well said...married once and still for 27 1/2 years....certainly not all easy but I do look forward to my time with her after 17 days on the road. Honestly...she is a much better person than I am ...... must be my magnet personality..lol
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:02 AM
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The Man's marriage checklist...

1) Get Married
2) Enjoy Honeymoon
3) Wait to Die

But seriously...

If you're a young pilot, be extra-cautious about jumping into marriage. The fact that you have to have special criteria for your spouse is just one more hardship imposed by aviation.

If at all possible, wait until you get the dues-paying mostly behind you, or at least to a point where most of the variables are behind you (ie hired by a major airline). No it won't hurt you to wait until you're 35, you'll still have 50-ish years to enjoy matrimony. If you're worried about re-productive issues marry a girl who's a few years youger.

Don't marry an American woman younger than late twenties unless she is truly exceptional in her maturity. Most simply have no idea what they want long-term and will change you like a flat tire once they figure it out.

I have mixed feelings on pre-nups. Personally the whole thing would tend to poison my sense of trust for my spouse, but that's just me. Probably best to do one...I don't think it will get you out of child support, but I think it can protect any assets you brought to the marriage, and post-marriage income.

If you already have assets and a pre-nup is a bridge too far (I would be hurt if asked to sign one) you can always but your stuff in a trust. Of course she'll have to know about that eventually. If your parents have assets, make sure they put your inheritance in a trust for you.
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:21 AM
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+1 on what Rick said, especially the maturity of Western/American women. DON'T marry one who doesn't have a real job, ie, a career. She's looking for someone to provide her a lifetime of money.

Worth repeating:

1. A man marries hoping nothing will change.
2. A woman marries hoping she can change everything.

3. Marriage is the leading cause of divorce.
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Old 10-03-2012, 08:04 AM
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I know more than one guy, who after getting divorce, gets immediately married. Why why why
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