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Originally Posted by sourdough44
Of course one prefers the blessings of a spouse. I also know those who tried to please & the other found an exit anyway. A few went to great lengths to please.
I’m just saying to be reasonable and expect the same. There are times when you know what you have to do, while the next cannot fathom your course of action.
Far and away the best scenario with the spouse is to already be established at your career major before you get hitched.
Second best is that she's knows you're committed to doing aviation before you get hitched. This worked for me, I delayed engagement until I decided what I wanted to be when I grew up so aviation was part and parcel to the deal... and sometimes I have to remind her of that.
If you drag a wife (and family) down this road be careful you don't get stuck in the cycle of blame, where she sets the tone that you always owe her something for disrupting her life... you won't be able to enjoy life because you're always trying to "make it up to her", and of course the bar on that will keep moving for as long as you're willing to chase it. Need to set the tone that you're doing it for your own fulfillment (which any spouse should reasonably support up to a point) and there's a CHANCE that you'll end somewhat rich with great QOL.