I was hired in the spring of '87-and the union brief at the time included a comment that be sure your family is going to be happy wherever they live since they'll be there full time and you won't. I have commuted to fly 5-6 six day pairings my entire career and had the good fortune to be senior enough to hold double deadheads. My current a/c doesn't have too many d/h's-so I commute to MEM. It beats living there even if I have to pay for a crashpad and car.