You took what I said out of context. Most APPLICANTS have one checkride failure, not failure in training. I have met VERY few people who have zero failures.
You are an anomaly. The majority of pilots do NOT have failures on their records. The FAA would have an AC out for FSDO, DE and CFI's to alter the training process if most pilots were failing. CFI's do NOT want a student failure since it effects them as well. They are not supposed to sign you off if you aren't ready.
You can try and rationalize your own failure all you want. The statistics do not support your false feel good claim.