ok.. so here is what happened...
i was in CT airspace controlled by Bradley on my way to TEB. I was given the intersection (which i later found out i would have most likely been holding at like several other planes) while on V3 off the Hartford VOR. The intersection is off of the Bridgeport VOR 288R and is defined by both the BDR and Carmel VORs. Due to volume, the vectors i asked for werent given, to which i asked for a deviation direct BDR VOR, which was.
My purpose for this (by the way, this happens often on the edge of NY airspace to the north) is that I would be flying direct to the station and then fly outbound to the Intersection. This way i would be able to get to the VOR no problem and hence find the intersection without further issue. As far as vectors, once you are about 25 DME from BDL and headed south, its almost a waste to ask for them. It is almost as if the BDL controllers are afraid of big bad NY.