If you want an aviation career, I would take the navy slot assuming you don't mind hard work, really want to do a military mission, and have the FULL support of your wife. Military aviation, despite all the hassles, is still a more reliable career than the civilian track.

Despite all the talk about cutting retirements, I'm 85% sure they will grandfather anyone who gets his foot in the door while OEF is still going.

Ultimately if you end up deciding on the airline track you will be much more competitive for a major job than the average regional pilot (assuming fixed wing). And it will take you about the same amount of time to get there, but at least in the military you can avoid poverty wages and no benefits along the way.