I would love to live at base, but it's not in the cards right away....my wife and I have accepted commuter hell for the first year or so until we get at feel for the best long term plan. I live about 45 min from ILM and OAJ and 2.5 hours from RDU. If given a choice of ATL, IAD, or DTW, what would be the better of 3 evils to minimize the pain?