In a nutshell, I will present a schedule no later than the 1st each month. I have two weekends a month. If I have a third one off, then my ex can change the weekends. Week day visits are for dinner. I pay for all transportation costs. I drive about 150 miles each way. I just ended weekend visits when my oldest son started high school. I now spend a full Saturday or Sunday with them. Vacations alternate years except Christmas which is split. If I don't get it off, I loose the time. No make ups. Summer is 12 days at my home. 12 days are my minimum days off guarantee.