I've had two of these events in the last 12 months. One was combat related, the second was a very young SSGT who simply died in his sleep of natural causes, 3 months after getting home from A'stan. CPSC likewise gave me the heads up. I gave it some thought about how to offer all due respect. PM me if you want. The Mil escorts can also give you tips on how to approach. May be your last opportunity to positively (& personally) impact at least one fallen serviceman.