Originally Posted by
Freightpuppy
I understand what you say. Although, everyone's situation is different. My fiancee is a pilot too and we have discussed the family thing many times. We decided to stay living where we grew up and have awesome parents who are willing to help with kids in the future. We have watched our schedules and agree that we can have kids, work and have one of us be home pretty much all the time. We would still see eachother as much as we see eachother now. We would maybe need grandma 4 times a month. I have spoken with many 2 pilot couples that make it work and I believe I can too. If it becomes too much, then we will have a decision to make. Of course the kids will come first.
On another note, I grew up with only a mother and things turned out just fine but that's an entirely different discussion.
You and your husband have all my best wishes and congratulations. I am sure that you will be successful parents.
However I would like to mention that I have known a few mothers who stuck it out for a few months as a line pilot but never any who were able to stay away long term. The bonds of motherhood are very strong. I found it very difficult to be away myself and can only imagine the torture it would be to be a mother leaving her new born on a two week trip.
I don't think we really know ourselves until we hold our children for the first time. Parenting is a hugely satisfying and fulfilling journey.
Best of luck,
SkyHigh