bcpilot

I am sorry to hear about your situation & I can understand your frustration as a parent whose child is acting & behaving the way he is.....

We all were like that once in our youth, a little bit of reckless...

Your son's situation could be same, if it is just a little lie to gain more popularity with his friends back home.

However, if the trend continues, it MAY turn into a very serious situation.

Many a youth have made a small mistake, that completely ruined their life.

There is a way to put him on a leash & hopefully he will mend his ways.

Use & the " STICK & CARROT" approach.

DO NOT TELL HIM THAT YOU CAUGHT HIS BLUFF......

Just make a story up that a similar thing happended with the daughter of a friend or freind's friend, who went to USA & never went to college & just spent the 4 yrs partying etc....

Tell him that you are sure that his son would never do something like that but still that incident has you scared & now, going forward, you need to be on the top of things......

So, if he needs a penny more and that includes this months living expenses, he will need to sign an authorization form which allows you to talk to anyone in his university on his behalf & allows the university officials including the Dean, to talk to you about his studies & stay in USA & allows them to send you a copy of his transcripts via fax or FEDEX directly to you.

Be strict & make sure that your wife, his mother does not send him any money behind the back. Mothers tend to have a soft corner for the sons.

Initially he may resist, play angry, play the innocent kid with the MOM angle, but when the money does not come, he will cave in or begin to mend his ways.

Controlling his money is the only way you can control him.

A surprise visit will not hurt either.....

Best of Luck.....