Sounds like you have to take orders somewhere. 99% chance if you mention dropping your letter/airlines/getting out your not gonna get an EP. You gain nothing by talking about that so don't to anyone but your wife. The unwritten rules of AD, civilian, and Reserve life are VERY different. So be careful and choose your words carefully. Be ready to answer the COs questions on your intentions. Shoot for FTS if that is what you want since it leaves you options. But if that doesn't work then when you get to your next duty station and it is time and to your advantage, drop your letter. Have your ducks in a row!