I am dealing with the same issues; I have a wife and two sons also. I flight instruct on the side just to get the time, and often tell myself that the if I ever get a regional job I will have more time at home commuting on reserve than I do now. So, that’s the biggest question. What are you doing now? Does it offer the pay and qol that you want? In my part of the country having a 6 figure goal is not considered “greedy”, but defiantly not obtainable on a 9-5er. Literally everyone I know who touches 6 figures or more can’t hold 9-5hours either through the nature of the job or they need the overtime to achieve the income. So for me, I’ve decided to continue on to the 121 world because I shift work now and won’t ever see 6 figures. I do think it’s the quality not quantity of time spent with your family. If that weren’t the case than all the unemployed and disabled would have the best family life. Just don’t ride the couch in front of the TV when you are home and you should be good.