If all the stars aligned, there is a possibility that it could work. However, for the first few years, you will be both be commuting to different domiciles and will never see each other. Throw kids into the mix and you have a recipe for disaster. The divorce rate in this industry is high for a reason.

Not to sound like and old fashioned "women in the kitchen" guy, but if you want to raise a family, raise a family. If you want to be an airline pilot, be an airline pilot. Trying to do both when you're spouse also works full time is shooting for the moon. Not really fair on your kids in my opinion.