Menopause can be absolutely brutal, for both parties. Suffice it to say that the gal you knew going into menopause will not be the same gal during or after menopause. If you still want to be with her afterwards, count your blessings, but be prepared to say "Hon, we are different people now, and we both have 25 - 35 years of our lives to live. Better that we should spend those years with people we want to be around rather than hoping that we somehow fall in love with one another again. So long."