Originally Posted by Husker4Life

UPSpilott....

We get it. You hate UPS. You're miserable and you want to spare the world of your misery. Message received loud and clear. Anyone that disagrees with you is an idiot....

I can't imagine you're married or have kids, but if you do....wow!, do I feel sorry for them!

Here's an excerpt of article about a type of personality disorder. Maybe it applies to someone you know.


Some people make life miserable for others. They blame you for their own problems, have no empathy, and always seem to be conjuring up trouble. A subset of them are called "high conflict people," and they often have some kind of personality disorder--usually borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. Some high-conflict people (HCP) have some maladaptive personality traits, but not enough to have a full-blown personality disorder.

HCPs have a life-long personality pattern of distorted thoughts, emotions, and actions. Time after time, they avoid taking responsibility for their problems. They repeatedly argue against feedback, regardless of how helpful and truthful it may be. And over and over again, they try to persuade others to agree with their rigid points of view and help them attack their targets of blame.

High-conflict people consider themselves as an injured party; a victim, even, of the shortcomings of others. The issues may come and go, but their personality traits keep them in conflict. They never learn from their experiences. The cliché “He would cut off his own nose to spite his face” was written for them, especially in legal disputes

HCPs are prone to the following thoughts, feelings, and actions:

They split, or engage in all-or-nothing thinking

Their negative feelings shape their reality (“feelings equal facts”)

For the most part, their emotions are intense and fluctuate rapidly

They have difficulty empathizing with others

They have a hard time accepting and healing from a loss

Their behaviors are extreme, in keeping with their distorted thoughts and feelings

They’re preoccupied with blaming others and don’t take responsibility for their actions

HCPs live in a black and white world. They may not analyze situations, hear different points of view, or consider possible solutions. Things must be their way, and they’re not willing to be flexible or compromise because it feels like everything is at stake. This especially comes out during divorce proceedings.

They base their view of themselves, situations, and others on what they’re feeling at that moment rather than objective reality. This appears irrational to those around them, who are baffled by the HCP’s raging, blaming, or self-destructive actions.

People with BPD are too self-involved, and people with NPD see others as chess pieces on the black and white chessboard of their life.

They have a hard time accepting and healing from a loss

According to Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, people facing huge losses go through the following stages of the grieving process:

1) Denial

2) Anger

3) Bargaining

4) Depression

5) Acceptance

High conflict people seem stuck in the anger stage.