*shrug* I'd rather know and rip the band-aid off all at once. That marriage is destined to fail anyway and IMO certainly not worth saving.

I had a former DO who strongly suspected... Our squadron was on a real deployment but he wasn't on it. He pretended like he was, got in a jet, taxied to the end of the runway, and then taxied back after the fanfare died down. I guess his ex didn't count tails. He went home and his fat ugly wife was in bed with the plumber. Good riddance.