I agree there are situations that work out.

I flew with guys who had great understanding wives. They worked as long haul 747 pilots and were gone for extended periods. So long as the paycheck was direct deposited and the pilot was gone but a few weeks every other month things worked out just swimmingly. However when they were able to return to fly domestically they came home to a cleaned out house and legal documents on the kitchen counter. I do not believe it is usually a good thing to have a spouse happy to see their partner gone a lot.

A lot of pilots whom I have known were really married to the sky. Their spouse was just a life accessory. I do not know what your situation is however mutually beneficial relationships need to be maintained. Children need their parents. Some aviation job situations are able to provide for a stay at home spouse however under the current situation regional wages and schedules are often way to low to provide for that.

The result is that the spouse left behind has to work and survive as a married but essentially single parent. The off sided work arrangement can lead to resentment. In the past a flying career paid enough to provide for a stay at home parent. The spouse could follow the career moves of the pilot. As a working parent this often means that they stay put to preserve their career and the pilot must commute thus adding to time away from home.

A better plan is just to stay single.

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