Yeah, I'm "new" to the "new" United. Sounds like you guys are "old" to the "old" and "new" United. I haven't walked your miles in your shoes and I bet there's a lot of stuff on 'em...you have some experience.
That said, is there any way, considering your experience - not just at United, but in your lives, that you can muster something of value moving forward at work? Perhaps one flight at a time, making it what you want it to be...
Man, life is too dang short. Even when taking a metaphoric sip of crappy coffee and knowing how it progressively worsened...is there a way for you to make it something better? One flight, one person at a time? You are leaders by position...folks gotta follow to a point. If you head somewhere away from bitterness(though perhaps justified) towards something positive and then folks follow - that's real leadership as you know. I'll follow ya there.
Whew...a little early for that. I think I'll make a cup of coffee.