I wholesale disagree.

For a career military guy who has all ready moved his family 8-10 times in the previous 20 years, it is a no-brainer to settle the family where they want to stay and suck up the temporary pain of a commute to a relatively short-term regional job. The "moving every 2-3 years" lifestyle really starts to get old, especially as the kids are school aged and you have to pull them away from their friends repeatedly. So, the perspective is the opposite: the pain of the commute is offset by the happiness of the family not ever having to move again if they don't want to. Happy wife, happy life.

Possibly just as important, the military pays for one move at retirement -- not two.