Catscan,
I think you should get a job and start flight lessons on the side. Having all of these excueses will get you no where and if you give the military excuses your not going to make it.
I know it may be difficult for you to work, save and pay for flying lessons, but when there is a will there is a way. I have many buddies that put themselves through school and are now flying fighters in the AF, Navy, and Marines. If they found a way to do it I am sure you can too. So get off your ass, get a job and start saving for school. If you can afford it then start flying too. As Nike says, Just do it.