It was tough at first when I was commuting to reserve. Thankfully she knew what she was getting into. Now that I live in base she swears I don't have a job. The time that I am gone I make up for it by doing anything I can to make her life easier. Which is easy because I actually have the time to do so, and have many hobbies on the side. I wish I made more money but ultimately I have tons of free time to do whatever. She does have friends though, her job is flexible and no kids yet. I'm sure that will change things.
And nothing beats surprising them with a five day trip to Cancun out of nowhere.