Look at the fighter pilots in your country. Look at their wives. If you like what you see then go be a fighter pilot. I have a lot of FB friends that are fighter guys--some from past experience and others that I have met in my consulting work.
Pilots, in general, and confident people. That confidence attracts many good spouse candidates. When I look at my friends FB pages, especially the young fighter guys--I see a high percentage of good looking gals.
I think if you worry about making YOU the best person you can be, the kind of women you are looking for will find you. I met my bride of almost 28 years in town of maybe 15k as well...and I've never looked back.
Last point--I met more and better gals once I was out of college than I ever did in college. Your a "boy" with a dream in college, but a man with a career after you graduate. There will be women looking for someone just like you...
Follow you heart. If you want to serve your nation--go do it. The social will take care of itself...