The stall is actually your best friend - think Va - The stall becomes a pressure relief in a way - and keeps you from tearing your aircraft and you apart...
To understand a stall I had to embrace Va
Think center of pressure in relation to cg and as you pitch up with more angle of attack - the center of pressure moves toward the leading edge until the airflow becomes so turbid and basically the pressure is dumped...
Very crude explanation - but this is why I love the stall and really try to know my aircrafts weight so I can determine Va for that specific weight