Ever consider buying??
Real estate is appreciating nicely in NJ (this week). And you could, with the right deal, make more and save the rental costs. The other alternative, is to
seriously move to NJ and really live there. If you go 20 south, 10 west, or 10 north you will find very nice, livable housing. Taxes a bit high, but better schools than much of the country. Good luck!