Originally Posted by
Adlerdriver
This attitude that spanking a child is somehow destructive to them is perpetuated by individuals who don’t understand how to do it properly.
Spanking a child needs to happen when you’re in control. It’s not an immediate “heat of the moment” action and it should never be used as a threat. It’s a consequence. It’s also not the “go to” option for every offense.
You make sure you’re not doing it in anger. That may require a reasonable waiting period, 20-30 minutes. Let them know it’s coming. You make sure the child understands you love them and they’re receiving the punishment as a consequence for whatever behavior warrants it. Deliver the spanking, comfort them, reaffirm your love for them and move on.
Let them know it’s coming and then wait half an hour?? Way to add psychological punishment to physical. That’s the modern day equivalent of making a kid go out back and cut his own switch.
Physically harm them and then provide comfort?? Also psychologically confusing.
My opinion only.