Originally Posted by CBreezy

The key word is discipline. It is possible to impart discipline without physical violence. Just because someone refuses to hit their kid doesn't mean they won't discipline them.

My neighbor's kids growing up were never hit by their parents. Their kids include two doctors, a teacher/coach and paramedic and all very successful. It isn't zero sum. If you choose not to hit your kids, it doesn't by default mean they do whatever they want like your are implying. The "be your kid's friend" is what has caused the safe spaces generation.