I think your question boils down to this: do I want to commute one leg or two (or possibly more)?

There are options daily out of EWR/PHL area, but there are far more options out of SEA. It's a lot closer, too. If you can, in any way, swing the move and fly Barney out of ANC, life will be very, very good. I commute from the northeast and it's been doable so far, but the time away costs are significant. You would likely be able to J/S home after a trip to SEA and go to bed with the family, instead of J/S home and arrive when the family is waking up.

PM if you want more details.

See you on the J/S