Most people from my commute city commute to MDW, but I find BWI to be easier. I can even manage commutable on both ends pretty often.

I’ve commuted for more than 15yrs of my career, and I’m still married to the same woman (lol) for 20+. It’s doable but it’s not easy. Successful commuting is a mindset. You have to view it as part of your trip from the moment the lines are awarded. It’s extra time on each end.

That said, I would move to a domicile in a heartbeat if your situation allows. You’ll have a lot more time at home and/or make more money. We’re just too dug in to move with family on both sides living close, etc.