Originally Posted by
IHateYou
Congrats. I’m happy for you. It’s an extreme rarity to find a quality woman for a wife. It happens. But super rare.
I’m sorry I won’t combine my finances and property with a woman. That’s not commitment issues, that’s just wise.
I watch too many people get cleaned out by women. I know one SFO guy right now getting wiped out for 500k+. My TK instructor got taken for over a million. That’s just two quick examples. There’s many more. No thanks. I’m not going to risk it. You can still have a relationship and not combine everything. Marriage is NOT required.
That’s my point. You think it’s an extreme rarity but my belief is it’s not. Just because you’ve stopped looking or never really did doesn’t mean they are rare. In your bubble that may be true but I’m personally surrounded by couples in very strong marriages. They aren’t perfect individuals but they are committed to each other beyond an informal verbal agreement.
I’ve not once said what you’ve chosen for your life is wrong. I just don’t agree that stating “don’t get married, don’t have kids” is sound advice for everyone.
What you see as wise, I see as simple risk-aversion not wisdom.