You don't mention anything about what your log book looks like. It would be helpful to know exactly where "on the curve" you are right now.

You got your Private Pilot's license yet? How many hours in the log?

Since you are obviously at a MCAS, have you availed yourself of the (hopefully) resident 'Armed Forces Aero Club"?

Most NAS I was ever stationed at -or flown into, had a 'flying club'. You didn't say where you were stationed. . but if you are in -or near SAN, there used to be a very active Armed Forces Aero Club at Montgomery Field.

If all you have done so far is 'dream' about it . . . WHY????

One of the posters above mentioned the cold, hard fact that you MUST have your Baccalaureate Degree. There is NO way around it. That is one of the 'minimums' airlines require. You got one?

Getting to your destination is going to be a LONG, HARD slog. Having 'dependents' will make it even tougher. Many of us found it tough and did it as single people. I can't even imagine doing what I did having any body but myself to be responsible for. If you want it badly enough, it is attainable . .