This may have been covered but if not I'd add:

It doesn't matter where your degree is from and it doesn't matter what its in.

Large collegiate flying programs are almost always a ridiculous ROI and all they may do in theory is shave a few months of instructing/check hauling (OK not much of that but there's lots of other things like drug test and biopsy samples that need to be rushed and all that) and that's NOT worth spending 6 figures more for.

Grades/GPA do matter, but the "college experience" doesn't. No one cares if there's a campus IMAX theatre inside the Starbucks rock climbing wall and no one will ever ask how nicely landscped the Quad was. The "college experience" is irrelevant and not worth one penny. Its a business decision, and odds are you have multiple really good in state options. A teenager wanting to go to a party school because they like the teams and "vibe" of the place is irrelevant.

No one cares if primary training is in "state of the art all glass" blah blah blah. No one cares. Ever. Never. Get quality training but old steam stuff, if its significantly cheaper, wins every time. All you'll "need" if anything is a short transitional course to glass most of which can be done on the ground with the engine off.

Because the degree won't matter, it should NOT be an "aviation degree" unless maybe its a legitimate engineering degree. Whatever the airline environment is for new pilots now may change a lot by the time she's at that point, so why not have either a legitimate backup degree or at least one that paves the way for real employment at the Master's level by facilitating entry into those programs.

MIL may be a great option, but these days with more and more drone stuff you'll need to make sure there's no risk of being trapped in something she won't want, and like others have said, don't look at it just as "free flight training" because its way more than that and there needs to be a strong motivation behind doing it independant of that.

Best of luck!