Well, I'm coming from the oil & gas industry over the past decade, and they couldn't care less about what you did with your spare time and whether or not you were "helping to make the world a better place". All they cared about was your previous industry experience, knowledge, recommendations and work ethic. Actual things that related to the job you were interviewing for, not trivial things you did on your time off.

Like I said, when choosing a surgeon, you shouldn't base your decision on whether he goes fishing on his yacht on his days off, or fixes cleft palates for third world kids (unless you're having cleft palate surgery), and neither should they hire pilots based on that.

To your bolded statement: The reason I don't like it is this. I'm entering the industry once again after many years away. I'm going to have to commute as a very junior FO, and then hopefully a very junior CA. I will barely have enough time to keep my marriage together and maintain my home. I will not have time to volunteer for anything unless I neglect my marriage or my home, and to expect me to do it is unreasonable and unrealistic.

If you're a senior pilot, living in base and can hold a decent line with a good bit of time off (which I will never have), great, knock yourself out and give Mother Teresa a run for her money, but don't force me to do it and ruin my marriage in the process.

So if I'm coming off as "raging against the machine" for being more concerned about keeping my marriage intact than "being a good citizen", then so be it. My marriage is more important to me than what some HR person thinks "makes me a good citizen". I think being a good husband makes me "a good person".

And being "a good employee" and "a good citizen" aren't mutually exclusive. You can be one or the other, both, or neither of them.