Here's a scenario. HR is interviewing 2 pilots, both have the same flight times and types. Both are very nice people who have great recommendations and reputations with their coworkers.

Pilot A is single, lived most of their time in base, and has extracurricular activities that would rival Mother Teresa.

Pilot B is married and has 2 kids, and commutes to work because they don't want to pull their kids out of a school they love and excel at, and has immediate family on both sides where they live. Pilot B is a great parent and spouse. They spend every moment they are home with their children, spouse, and family.

Which one of these pilots is a "better person"? According to HR, it's obviously pilot A, which is bull$hit.

"Being a good citizen" is incredibly subjective, and basing your opinion on what someone does in their spare time is ridiculous. I think that that being a great parent and spouse is "being a good citizen".

Well, I'm going to live my life as I see fit to. On the few days I'm at home, I'm going to spend my time fixing things around the house, doing yardwork, and spending time with my wife. Occasionally I may be able to join her at our RV at the beach and do some fishing (which she loves to do) and let the chips fall where they may.

I'm not going to be on my deathbed thinking, "I should have spent more time doing volunteer work instead of with my wife and family".