Exactly.

The old "Do as I say, not as I do" syndrome.

That's what I'm getting at. We need to stop playing their stupid game. Tell them the damn truth. "I'm a regional pilot that commutes to work, and I have very little time at home. I'm sorry, but I don't have time to save the world, and take care of my family. I'm a loving and caring father and husband, and I'm dedicating my life to taking care of my family. What else do you want to know about me?"

But no, we play their games, "Oh, I'm a Big Brother to disadvantaged children, and I volunteer at the soup kitchen every chance I get, and I visit a retirement home several times a week to visit with the guests. My kids barely know my name and face, and my wife is divorcing me because I'm never home, but I'm giving back to the community!

Stop the madness people!